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Principles of Being a Love Magnet

"Love Magnet:" A single person able to attract the right partner effortlessly; a person in a relationship who is able to attract his or her partner's love and affection effortlessly.

We all want love. For a certain, fairly small percentage of the population, love comes easily, naturally. For the rest of us, love can be a struggle whether we are a single or in a relationship. Singles often work hard to find love; people in relationships often work hard to get and maintain love.

However, attracting and getting love does not have to be a struggle. Really. You can become the kind of person who has a particular kind of an aura, a particular kind of a light that draws love to you. The more light you have, the more easily love comes to you. You can become a love magnet.

Regardless of your relationship status, check out the first 10 principles of being a love magnet. Embodying these, becoming these, you will attract and keep the love you want, effortlessly.

1. Take care of yourself, first.
Be your top priority, then give only when you genuinely can. Good self care turns on a light inside of you that is unmistakably attractive.

2. Set strong boundaries.
Take good care of yourself and the world will feel like a friendly, safe place. Life will become less about trusting others and more about trusting yourself. You can then allow attraction to work, rather than fearing you will attract the wrong person.

3. Complete your past.
Your past appears at the most inopportune moments. You will think you are reacting to the situation in front of you, but in reality you will be reacting to the past. An incomplete past dims your light and makes you unattractive.

4. Stop being angry.
Ok, I don't mean swallow your anger and pretend it's not there. I mean do what you need to do to let go of it. Anger dims your light by taking up your energy.

5. Make integrity a priority.
Simply put, you feel better about yourself when you are in tune with your own standards. The better you feel about yourself, the brighter you shine.

6. Step over nothing.
Gloss over nothing that bothers you and nothing that elates you. The more you communicate, the more you shine.

7. Be fearless.
Everything that is worth doing involves a risk, a gamble. Sure your heart could be broken, but having taken a risk, you will feel alive. The more risks, the more aliveness, the more attractive you are.

8. Be generous and kind, with no strings.
Do something loving, kind, with no hope of return, many times. Do something generous and kind in your most important relationships. Very attractive.

9. Have compassion.
Be able to stand in someone else's shoes. The more you can "get" people, understand them, the more attractive you become.

10. Be grateful.
Count your blessings. Celebrate your life, even if you don't want to. An attitude of gratitude will light you up.

Working Definition: Love Magnet - A single person able to attract the right partner effortlessly; a person in a relationship who is able to attract his or her partner's love and affection effortlessly.

Attracting and getting love does not have to be a struggle. Really. You can become the kind of person with the kind of light, an aura, that draws love to you. The more light you have, the more easily love comes to you.

I've compiled a list of the principles of being a love magnet, and shared the first 10 with you last week. To recap, here they are:

1. Take care of yourself, first.
2. Set strong boundaries.
3. Complete your past.
4. Stop being angry.
5. Make integrity a priority.
6. Step over nothing.
7. Be fearless.
8. Be generous and kind, with no strings.
9. Have compassion.
10. Be grateful.

You can see these principles in detail at http://www.whatittakes.com/Archive/Newsletter90to99/newsletter__92.shtml

Here are the next 10 principles of being a love magnet.

11. Say "No," a lot.

Say no when you want to say no but should say yes. Say no when you want to say no but are afraid of hurting others' feelings. Say no when you want to and need to say no but would rather be nice. Saying no shows you that you matter. And when you matter, you shine.

12. Trust yourself.

Trust your feelings, your thoughts, your gut. Trust yourself more than you trust anyone else; only you know yourself that well. Trust your own advice above any else's. Trusting yourself increases your self esteem, which makes you very attractive.

13. Value yourself highly.

Don't settle for anything. Want and work toward getting the best treatment, the best of life, the best of love. You are valuable and precious. Treat yourself as such and others will too.

14. Be everything you want.

Be everything you want your partner to be. And be everything you want to be for yourself. This makes it possible for your right partner to be drawn to you and gives you a wonderful, satisfying life.

15. Express yourself.

Express your creativity. Express your brilliance. Express your passion. Express your feelings. Give voice to the song inside you. The more self-expressed you are, the better you will feel about yourself and life and the more you will shine.

16. Live your best life.

Don't wait to have a partner to live the life you want to live. Don't waste your time making excuses for not living the life you want. What's more attractive than a happy, fulfilled person?

17. Shine, from the inside.

Different things make different people shine. However, what's guaranteed to give you a glow is deeply satisfying activities or endeavors. What can you get involved in that will be deeply satisfying?

18. Open your heart.

Be open to relationships of all kinds, connect with people for the purpose of connection. Be truly interested in people. Let go of the idea that the only reason to meet new people is to find the one. Very attractive.

19. Learn to listen.

Learn to listen to what people are saying instead of what you think they are saying. The way to do this is to stop worrying about what you will say in response or how what is being said will affect you. If you learn to listen you will be a sought after person.

20. Learn to communicate.

Learn how to say what you need to say even when you are terrified, or when you think no one will agree, or even if you think you will be judged. Learn how to do this gently. The more you speak your mind and heart, the better you will feel about yourself.

Working Definition: Love Magnet - A single person able to attract the right partner effortlessly; a person in a relationship who is able to attract his or her partner's love and affection effortlessly.

Attracting and getting love does not have to be a struggle. Really. You can become the kind of person with the kind of light, an aura, that draws love to you. The more light you have, the more easily love comes to you.

I've compiled a list of the principles of being a love magnet, and have so far shared the first 20 with you. To see them again, go here for the first 10:
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And here for the second 10:
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Here are my final 10 principles of being a love magnet. By embodying these, becoming these, you will be able to attract and keep the love you want.

21. Ask for what you want.

Ask for what you want, again and again and again, in every area of your life. Every time you ask for what you want you give yourself and others the message that you are valuable and worth caring for. If you don't already, by doing this you will begin to feel valuable. And when you feel valuable, you are attractive.

22. Appreciate and acknowledge.

Seeing the best in others brings out their best. You become a very attractive person when you appreciate and acknowledge others, because you bring the best out in people.

23. Surrender control.

Learn to flow with life. Learn to like difference, change, spontaneity and risk. The more you can flow, the more free you will feel. And feeling free will make you shine.

24. Welcome interdependence.

Independence is overvalued--and it renders you unable to truly connect with another human being. To love someone is to depend on that person. Yes, it is a risk. But without taking that risk, you will never know love.

25. Get everything you want.

Go for everything you want in life and don't let fear stop you. Your persistent desires call you to your true self. The more you follow that call, the more genuine, self-expressed and authentic you are. And the more authentic you are, the more you stand out, the more you attract.

26. Never settle.

Never settle, especially in a relationship. This does not mean you have to find the "perfect" man or woman. It means you become willing to honor your wants and needs. Honor them to the extent that having them met becomes a condition for having a relationship. And be willing to let go of a relationship when your most important needs have no hope of being met.

27. Contribute to others.

Make a difference in the world -- feed your soul and your humanity. This ignites an unmistakably attractive light.

28. Get involved.

Expand your community, not simply to meet a mate but to be connected, to participate, to belong. As a bonus, you will probably meet your ideal mate this way.

29. Grow yourself.

Develop your capacity for introspection, for feelings, for creativity and spontaneity, for love, for trust. The more you grow yourself the more you will know about attracting and building a relationship to last a lifetime.

30. Take action.

Some people never take action because they are afraid or unsure about the outcome. Some live in their dreams of the future, but neglect to take steps toward that future, leaving it unborn. The only way to have a life you love and a relationship you adore is to take steps to make it happen. Everything you do or don't do now impacts your future.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
www.WhatItTakes.com

(c) Rinatta Paries. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta
Paries can teach you the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"


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