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Ten Steps to Attract Your Ideal Relationship, Part II

Last week I revealed the first five of ten steps to attract
your ideal relationship. To review, please visit

Today you'll learn the final five steps. You don't have to take
these steps. You are welcome to read them once and forget about
them; let them be another lost piece of information.

However, as you read over these steps keep in mind that
everyone who has created a successful, loving relationship has
taken them. For some people these steps are intuitive, taken
automatically. For most of us they need to be deliberately taken.

6. Redefine Socializing
The sixth step in being able to attract and create your ideal
relationship is redefining why and how you socialize. Chances
are you have participated in many social situations simply as a
way to meet available partners. And chances are that you were
either not very successful, or that the relationships formed
this way crumbled quickly.

My advice may seem to be a paradox; if you want to meet your
ideal partner, stop looking for her or him. Socialize as a way
to create a rich, satisfying life and as a way to create a
supportive, vibrant community. Be social to enhance your life
and not to look for a partner. When you life works and you are
happy, the right partner will be drawn to you.

7. Develop a Life Vision
Focus on creating the kind of life you want. Your ideal partner
is just around the corner of your ideal life.

What is your ideal life? Where do you want to live? What do you
want to do for a living? How much money do you want to make?
What do you want to contribute to the world?

The key to creating your ideal life is to make yourself happy
now and to set yourself up to be happy in the future, regardless
of whether or not you are in a relationship.

8. Develop New Relationship Patterns
In order to attract your ideal relationship, you need to
develop new relationship patterns to replace your old
ineffective patterns.

The essence of your new relationship patterns is your ability
to do the following six things:

* See people for who they are and not for who you want
them to be or who you are afraid they are.
* Recognize your attraction to people, understand why
you are attracted to them and have a choice in what
you will do about it.
* Know what you need and be able to assess if a
potential partner is able and willing to meet your needs.
* Know and respect your boundaries and communicate when
they are crossed or endangered.
* Be clear about your definition of an ideal relationship
and be able to assess if a potential partner has the
capacity to co-create that kind of relationship with you.
* Have a rich and satisfying social life, one where your
needs for companionship are well met.

9. Strengthen Faith
The ninth step in being able to attract and create your ideal
relationship is strengthening your faith -- your relationship
with the universal source.

It is guaranteed that at one point or another in this process
of attracting your ideal relationship you will feel as if
everything you have done has produced absolutely no results.
Faith will be the one thing you will have to count on.

Having faith will keep you from going back to old behaviors in
an effort to speed up results.

How do you strengthen faith and build a relationship with the
universal source? Each person's path is his or her own. Find

10. Develop a New Set of Dating Behaviors
The final step toward attracting and creating your ideal
relationship is about learning how to begin a relationship once
you have attracted your ideal partner.

How you and your partner interact with each other at the
beginning of your relationship will lay the foundation for how
you relate to each other for the duration. It will either
guarantee a lifetime partnership or a breakup.

The essence of co-creating a lifetime partnership is to move
slow and spend quality time interacting in person. Phone and
email are not the same. Most importantly, build a relationship
on a foundation of 100% honesty. A relationship built on such a
foundation has the potential to last a lifetime.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your
ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship,
or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach
Rinatta Paries can teach you the skills and techniques to
attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice
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