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How Not to Blow it in a New Relationship, Part II

Today's article is an excerpt from a new web-class I am working
on titled "How Not to Blow it in a New Relationship."

What's a web-class? It's a class posted in secure section of You can access it anytime, from anywhere
as long as you have a computer and an Internet connection.

The first lesson in this 5-lesson web-class is now on the
website, with the next lesson being published today, and the
other three being published by the end of the week. Because it
is not yet completely published, you can still pre-enroll in
this web-class at a 20% off the cost.

The pre-enrollment offer is only good until the end of this
week. Read more below.

How Not to Blow it in a Brand New Relationship - a web-class

Lesson 2: Become physically intimate right away or wait?

New Relationship Mistake 2: Become physical intimate right
away. If you are meant to be together for a lifetime, you
might as well get started on the fun part now.

Once you are physically intimate with your new partner, you
can no longer stay objective. The reality that you are in a
relationship with a stranger will no longer matter. Your only
viable option will be to act as if the two of you have
established an emotionally intimate relationship in a short but
intense span of time. This brings with itself a whole set of
problems that could spell the end to your budding relationship.

A number of emotional events and changes take place when a
couple crosses over from dating into emotional intimacy. One
of these changes is that both people start taking each other's
behavior more personally.

For example, let's say one person likes to watch TV and the
other likes to go hiking. In early stages of dating, both are
learning about each other and may accept these behaviors as a
given. On the other hand, one or both of you may not like the
other's behaviors. Regardless, neither of you will take the
other's behavior personally.

In early stages of dating, everyone clearly knows that the
other person comes with his or her own set of likes, dislikes,
habits, etc, that have nothing to do with anyone they are

Once the relationship gets to a level of emotional intimacy,
both partners will take the others behaviors personally. In
our example, one will inevitably accuse the other of wanting
to go hiking or watch TV as a way to avoid the relationship,
intimacy, or both.

How will this work itself out in your brand new relationship?
All of the sudden, the relationship may be thrown from the
first blushes of romance, into the thick of working out who's
needs are going to get met and how. This kind of negotiation
does not happen in a healthy relationship until the couple has
been together for a year or so. How do you think a new
relationship deals with this kind of pressure?

A new relationship, with physical intimacy or without is a
fragile entity. The pressure to do anything but get to know
each other, see if the two of you are compatible and start to
build a friendship is too much for the relationship. When a
new relationship is pushed beyond its limits and stops
working, one or both people think they are in the wrong

This is the sad part about couples engaging in physical
intimacy too early. The couple looses a potentially good
relationship because they push into the thick of intimacy and
start dealing with issues for which the relationship is simply
not ready. As the relationship unravels, no one says, hey,
this is hard because we are going to fast too far and bringing
up issues we are not ready to deal with. People simply decide
they are in the wrong relationship, with the wrong person, and
move on.

This is not how you want to end your budding relationship with
the next great person you meet. To find out what to do right
in your new relationship and how to stop setting yourself up
for a breakup yet again, enroll in a brand new web-based web-
class titled "How Not to Blow it in a New Relationship."

What's a web-class? It's class posted in secure section of You can access it anytime, from anywhere
as long as you have computer and an Internet connection.

"How Not to Blow it in a New Relationship" will show you the
five worst mistakes people make in brand new relationships and
how to avoid making these mistakes. You will also be given the
healthy, relationship-promoting actions to build up and
strengthen your new relationship.

I am still completing this web-class. One lesson is already
published and the rest of the web-class will be published by
the end of this week.

If you pre-enroll in the web-class now before it gets fully
published you can save 20% off the price. For more information
and to pre-enroll, go to

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