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How to End a Relationship

Before it Even Starts -- What Not to do on the First Date

I often hear of singles who envision a first date as a way to
interview their dates instead of as a way to simply get to know
and enjoy them. Needless to say those who conduct the first date
that way seldom end up on a second date.

Why would this be?

Simply put, people want to be liked and wanted. People want
warmth and a person at the other side of the table who is exited
about the potential of the meeting. People seldom want to fit
into someone else's rigid idea of a perfect mate.

Yet the impulse behind first date interviews is understandable.
Singles who conduct first date interviews are trying to screen
out people who are not a good fit for them and are trying to
select people who ARE a good fit for them. This makes sense, but
doesn't work exactly as planned. Here is why.

If you interview someone on a first date, that person may
become uncomfortable and even resentful. He or she will likely
hold back, and you will not get to know the real person. You may
succeed in screening out some potentially unwanted behaviors or
traits, but you may also miss out on great people because of how
the conversation is conducted.

You can certainly screen for traits that don't work for you in
potential partners, but you don't have to interview the
potential partner to do so. Simply being with the person in a
relaxed atmosphere and talking about life should give you enough
information to know if that person is not the one. The key is to
trust your gut if you feel a person is not right for you,
without having to justify why you may feel that way.

On the other hand, if you end up leaving a relaxed first date
unsure of whether or not that person is a good fit, then
congratulations -- you did it exactly right. Any individual, no
matter how simple they may seem, cannot be measured by someone
else's list of traits for the perfect mate. We as human beings
are far too complex to be reduced to a list.

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Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries


(c) Rinatta Paries. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"


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